Nicole Kidman Says the Secret to Her 12-Year Marriage to Keith Urban Is Never Texting
As the star of a beloved HBO series, a crusader for pay equality, and a natural at Instagram, Nicole Kidman is in the prime of her life. One more reason: Her relationship with Keith Urban can be best described by the hashtag #couplegoal, even if the pair themselves would never use the term. As hard as it may be to believe — even more so for those of a certain age range — it’s been 12 years since the pair tied the knot.
In celebration of their anniversary, Kidman is opening up about how exactly she and Urban have maintained their sturdy relationship over the years. The answer is almost too impossible to believe: “We’ve never texted,” Kidman tells Parade. Before going through the logistical hurdle of how exactly two humans engaged in a relationship and partnership have never exchanged written info in the form of a text message, Kidman has offered some kind of explanation.
“We talk all the time and we FaceTime but we just don’t text because I feel like texting can be misrepresentative at times,” she says, making, no doubt, a good point. Tones do get misconstrued when written out and clarifications are an essential part of communicating primarily through text message. (Just watch Jordan Peele and Keegan-Michael Key’s sketch about the nightmare of making plans via text for confirmation.) This has happened to Kidman, which is why she doesn’t text Urban.
“I’ve had the thing where I re-read texts and I’m like, ‘What does that mean?’ and then read it to somebody and go, ‘Can you interpret that?’,” she explains. “I don’t want that between my lover and I. We just do voice to voice, or skin to skin, as we always say.”
This remark sparks a lot more questions than answers, though. For one, when Kidman or Urban are running late do they always take the extra time to dial each other, wait out the ring, and deliver the news to another person or a voicemail? Assuming that neither or them are able to answer the phone at any given time — they are busy, and Kidman is continually getting busier thanks to her new contract with Amazon — is their voice mailbox constantly full? Have they truly “never” texted within the past 12 years of their relationship? Or is this all just one Big Little Lie?
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An Exploration of Nicole Kidman’s Always Elegant Hairstyles, from Natural Curls to Glamorous Updos
A young Nicole Kidman hit the streets of Los Angeles with Tom Cruise in 1990. The actress wore a plain white button down and jeans, and left her hair in bouncy, windswept curls.
At the 1991 63rd Annual Academy Awards, Kidman wore her tight curls in a loose up do with tousled curls framing her face with a red lip.
Kidman attended the California premiere of A Few Good Men in 1992 wearing her blonde locks in relaxed curls with a bold, mauve lip.
At the 69th Annual Academy Awards in 1997, Kidman wore her hair in an elegant up do with a hint of cream blush on the cheeks paired with a burgundy red lip.
The actress wore her hair in a high pony with a taupe smoky and a nude lip at the Mission Impossible 2 film premiere in 2000.
The Australian beauty wore her newly chopped strawberry blonde locks in a tight curls with a nude, glossy lip at the Los Angeles premiere of The Hours in 2002.
Kidman was glowing as she celebrated her Oscar win for her role in The Hours in 2003.
Creamy, porcelain skin with a sleek, low pony with loose curls was Kidman’s look at the 2004 Venice Film Festival.
Kidman kept her look clean and simple at the 78th Annual Academy Awards in 2006 wearing her blonde locks straight and side-parted with a hint of blush on the cheeks and a rose pink lip.
At the London premiere of Australia in 2008, Kidman wore her hair in a low, sleek bun with a luminous skin and a berry pink lip.
The actress wore her auburn locks in big loose curls with a subtle cat eye at the 2010 HFPA Installation Luncheon.
At the 83rd Annual Academy Awards, Kidman wore her hair in a sleek pony with side swept bangs and a pink nude lip.
Kidman arrived at the 69th Annual Golden Globe Awards in 2012 wearing her strawberry blonde locks in relaxed curls with a glossy, nude lip.
Kidman wore her platinum bob in soft curls with dewy skin and a nude lip at the 70th Annual Golden Globe Awards in 2013.
Kidman wore her strawberry blonde locks side-parted in relaxed curls with a hint of blush on the cheeks at the 87th Annual Academy Awards in 2015.
At the 67th Annual Cannes Film Festival, Kidman wears an elegant, twisted low pony with a nude, pink lip.
At the 8th Annual Governors Awards in 2016, Kidman wore her shoulder-length platinum locks middle-parted with a light contour on the cheekbones with a glossy pink lip.
Stunning at the 89th Annual Academy Awards in 2017, Kidman wore her hair in an elegant up do with loose curls framing her face, with a hint of blush on the cheeks and a satin, red lip.
Kidman went for a minimalist look, with wavy hair and subtle makeup, at a photocall for “The Killing Of A Sacred Deer” during the 70th annual Cannes Film Festival at Palais des Festivals on May 22, 2017.
The actress looked classic at the Cannes Film Festival, with her long, straight hair, stud earrings, and matte red lip.
Nicole Kidman attended the “Top Of The Lake: China Girl” photocall during the 70th annual Cannes Film Festival at Palais des Festivals on May 23, 2017, wearing her hair in a teased, messy braid.
Nicole Kidman wore her blonde hair in beachy waves with a soft pink lip and a rosy hue on her cheeks at the 70th annual Cannes Film Festival at Palais des Festivals on May 23, 2017 in Cannes, France.
Nicole Kidman wore her hair in a sleek topknot with a few loose, face-framing pieces at the amfAR Gala Cannes 2017 at Hotel du Cap-Eden-Roc on May 25, 2017 in Cap d’Antibes, France.
Nicole Kidman looked casual–for her–at the Glamour Women of The Year awards 2017 at Berkeley Square Gardens on June 6, 2017 in London, England, with a berry-colored lip and loosely curled hair.
