Meghan Markle Wrote a Valentine’s Day Letter To Herself Two Years Ago When She Was Single and Non-Royal

Meghan Markle may be the last name a proudly bitter single person wants to hear on Valentine’s Day. She won the romance lottery after all and is busy planning her actual royal wedding. What possible comfort could you get from the subject of a real life fairy tail? Well, as it turns out, Markle was exactly where you are, dear single person, just two years ago, and she wrote a public letter to herself at the time with some sage advice. That blog post from 2015 on her former lifestyle site, the Tig, also reminds one just how much can change in a few years.

“I think you need to be your own Valentine,” Markle wrote at the time, according to People. “Last season I was chatting with my Suits sister wives, Sarah [Rafferty] and Gina [Torres], and was in some sort of funk, bemoaning something that was so futile I don’t even remember what it was now. But I was faaaaaar from showing [myself] self love. One of them stopped me—truth be told I can’t remember which one because they both impart their sage wisdom with me on the daily—but one of the stylish wise ones stopped me and said, ‘Hey! That’s my friend you’re talking about. Be nice to her.’”

Markle went on to explain the importance of friends forcing you to realize your own self worth, and in turn treating yourself, just because you can. “They were protecting me from myself,” she continued. “From my own criticism, and my own self doubt. They were reminding me to treat myself as well as I treat those closest to me. To be my own valentine.”

After mentioning some Valentine’s Day plans that included new shoes, Markle concluded the post with a feminist statement. “Those shoes, by the way, were my gift to myself. Because I’ve worked hard, because I’m not going to wait for someone to buy me the things I covet (nor do I want to), and because I want to treat myself as well as I treat those dearest to me. Because I am my own funny Valentine,” she concluded.

In a marked turn of events, this year Markle is celebrating the holiday of love with her royal fiancé in Scotland, performing her new duties as the future Her Royal Highness Princess Henry of Wales. It’s the first and last Valentine’s Day the two will spend as an engaged couple before they marry on May 19 of this year. No word on whether Harry bought her shoes.

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