Everything We Know About J.Lo and Ben Affleck’s Second Wedding

There was never any chance that Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck were going to get married at a small ceremony in private and leave it at that. A month after they got hitched in Las Vegas in front of just a handful of their loved ones, the pair hosted a comparatively lavish celebration at Affleck’s estate in Riceboro, Georgia for round two. (The weekend-long festivities, which included ATV rides and a barbecue picnic, reportedly cost upwards of $400,000.) Lopez is keeping us waiting for the trove of wedding content we know she has in store: She waited three days after the ceremony to share a single photo that only showcased her veil and white ruff. And while Vogue had the exclusive, they’ve also only shared a single snapshot.

Of course, details—and blurry aerial photos taken before a large fireworks display—have emerged nonetheless. Here’s everything we’ve learned before Lopez gives us the deets in her newsletter, On the JLo.

The Guest List

The guest list is said to have included Affleck’s longtime pal Matt Damon, the talent agent Patrick Whitesell, the actor Jason Mewes, the model-slash-actor Pia Miller, and Kevin Smith, the director of the couple’s famous box office bomb Gigli. (The latter is so far the only one to share a photo from the evening, captioning it “This is as formal as I’ve been dressed since maybe my First Communion when I was 7.” Jay Shetty, a celebrity life coach recently married four couples at a J.Lo performance, reportedly officiated the nuptials. Many spent the full weekend with the newlyweds, attending a rehearsal dinner on Friday and a brunch on Sunday.

The groom’s brother, Oscar-winner Casey Affleck, reportedly had to miss out due to parental obligations. Also absent was his ex-wife Jennifer Garner, though their three children were in attendance (as were Lopez’s two children with her ex Marc Anthony). Lopez’s longtime Hollywood BFF Leah Remini reportedly skipped out on the ceremony to spend time with her daughter before she heads off to college, having learned the value of family time when she missed out on it in her Scientology days.

The Dress Code

While tradition has it that no one but the bride should wear white, Lopez decided to flip the script. Photos from the weekend showed that everyone was wearing white, including Affleck who paired a white tuxedo jacket with black slacks. The white theme carried over to the decor, with white chairs, white flowers, a white piano, a white aisle, and a white boat they used to make their entrance. Things got colorful when it came time for the fireworks display at the end of the evening.

The Dress

Lopez’s first two wedding gowns had special significance, and the same was true for her third, fourth, and fifth. The 53-year-old singer-slash-actor nodded to her roots in the Bronx by selecting a designer from the same borough: Ralph Lauren, who also outfitted Affleck and their five kids. She walked down the aisle in a custom gown a long train that 30 artisans hand-embroidered with micro-pleats of silk tulle, Swarovski crystals, and pearls. All in all, it was comprised of more than 1,000 handkerchiefs and 500 meters of fabric, and Lopez got even more extravagant by topping it off with an absolutely massive veil. When it came time to hit the dance floor for a set by DJ Dubz, she changed into two additional Ralph Lauren dresses: one with a keyhole neckline that covered in Swarovski crystals, and one adorned with thousands of strings of pearls. It took the 30 artisans Lauren employed roughly 700 hours to finish the latter’s embroidery.

Fittingly for a couple that’s been twice engaged, the first time around, Lopez went with something old and something new: a Zuhair Marad gown with a fishtail train and a sleeveless A-line one that she’d been saving from her and Affleck’s 2004 film Jersey Girl.

The Venue

The pair got hitched beneath delphinium-covered framework of a church that was constructed specifically for the big day on Affleck’s 35-acre estate near Savannah, Georgia. The actor first bought the home back in 2003 during his first relationship with Lopez, and originally planned to marry her there before they called it off because of “excessive media attention.” He had tried to sell the pad in recent years, but apparently has decided to keep it in his property portfolio. The decision has some wondering why he would hang on to—and mark such a milestone at—this particular estate. The former home of a slave owner, it was remodeled to resemble a plantation in 2000. Enslaved people are also reportedly buried in an unmarked graveyard on the grounds.

The Honeymoon

Whether or not the pair will embark on another heavily papped honeymoon remains to be seen. If not, we still have plenty of photos to enjoy. You can see her galavanting across Paris with her kids and celebrating her birthday with Affleck here.